Now we are Four

IMG_20131019_2222124 years ago today. I got up, went to the gym for an hour and then went shopping to Marks & Spinster with my folks, where we stopped to have a pot of tea and an apple turnover. ‘What a beautiful day’ I thought.
Little did I know that an hour or so later my heart would traumatically tear away from its root, contacting emergency services as I struggled to unlock my apartment’s door for the ambulance and my parents to get in.
2 days later I woke after 2 emergency heart operations, having lost several pints of blood and being put on ice, hallucinating about Chinese nurses and caretakers and hippopotamus and Aladdin.
The years between have been full of cancer scares, cameras up/in every orifice, depression, PTSD, the loss of 2 jobs, a mini stroke, loss of field vision, losing my driving licence because of health issues, severe anaemia, a crash with a double decker bus ……..

I began blogging a little before this. In fact, it was in anticipation of planned heart surgery. I’d been planning a holi-holiday to Peru (Macchu Picchu, Lake Titicaca, Nazca Lines – all terribly exciting) and because so much of the adventure was at high altitude, I decided to check in with my Cardiologist. I watched as her face dropped on examination, and she rushed me in for an echo-cardiogram ‘just to check’. I waited to see her for the results as the ward emptied and we were the only two Left Standing.  It wasn’t good. I had an underlying heart condition, which had worsened and required surgery within the next 5 years – she would need further tests and a referral to a surgeon in order to determine when.

The trip to Peru was cancelled – the first of many holidays I’ve had to cancel since.  I was never all that keen on Macchu Picchu if I’m being honest – I don’t really like edges, as I get a bit drawn to them and a little too intrigued about what happens if I go over the edge. In the end, my heart decided it couldn;t really wait for the NHS and so it broke early and impetuously.

In between all that, I had the small matter of my testicular cancer diagnosis the previous year before my emergency incarceration. I know – it never rains but it pours, right?I had some counselling as I was going through it all – the orchidectomy, the chemotherapy. the waiting for surgery. Which is what led me to the blogging. I found it a cheaper way to process and capture some thoughts and feelings – so, if you’re reading this, you’re kinda my cheap therapist. But I don’t know if you’re qualified or not. If you are, I’ve got a bargain. If not, just don’t go telling my secrets to people, because you’re bound by confidentiality, right?
Today I was at the gym. There were 2 crutches left by the side of my treadmill, and I saw a woman struggling to climb on to a Stepper Machine. I recognised the determination on her face, and the struggle she was experiencing.
4 years have passed. I’m not currently employed, and it’s not always easy.

Step by step ….

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My heart got ripped apart three weeks ago today, so happy anniversary

I blame the apple turnover. I’d been fine until then, awaiting a scheduled heart operation. I’d been out shopping with my folks for their anniversary the following day and also made a bara brith and an american spiced carrot traybake for visiting relatives. I must still have their anniversary card somewhere…
A sudden tightness and pain in my chest, and I collapsed onto the floor unable to panic. Flooded with panic and alone in my flat I managed to phone my parents and ask them to get an ambulance, explaining I couldn’t breathe, both arriving with minutes and before sinking once more to the floor I had the foresight to at least open my front door. I was terrified I’d lose consciousness and no-one would be able to get in.
It gets hazy after that. I began throwing up. Mum told the ambulance we needed ‘blues and twos’. I passed my neighbour downstairs as I was taken out on a stretcher, saying ‘oh, hello….’ Holding onto the oxygen mask like a scene from Blue Velvet. Ambulance rides are bumpy and uncomfortable and I don’t know why I thought it would be different. Getting mum to phone work and explain what was happening so they could make arrangements. Trying to explain to my parents where my newly signed will was kept.
‘This is all very Casualty’ I thought, as we pushed through the double doors at A&E, to be met by the nursing team. The ambulance staff stayed to hold a drip for me, I kept throwing up and then apologising for it being ‘unseemly’ and kept getting asked my name and if I knew where I was. I told the nurse I couldn’t have my surgery yet because I hadn’t had my hair done and it needed touching up with red highlights.
‘Sometimes the anaesthetic turns it pink’ she said. ‘Oh I’d quite like that …’ I replied.
My parents had a conversation in the corridor with the surgeon. I can’t remember what he said to me except that they were going to operate immediately. ‘Oh that’s nice’ I think I said. It’s only now I’ve found out my aortic valve had ripped apart.
I was introduced to the anaesthetist, an eccentric but kindly man who made me laugh before wiring me up to all sorts of drips and I was taken into the operating theatre which was full of people and very, very bright. Like in The X Files when people get probed by aliens. Which may have been what I was thinking as the anaesthetic kicked in and a handsome doctor who looked about sixteen told me everything would be OK…
Three weeks ago today. I still owe my parents an anniversary card. And, along with the amazing NHS and ambulance staff, so very, very much more …